Hi, it's Lynn. Your adulting coach. We can use the seven habits to outsmart any challenge we face.
It could be chronic pain. It could be that we don't have that job that we were really hoping to have by now. It could be that we continue to indulge in food when we know that that's not what we want to do. We want to eat more healthy. Or we stay up scrolling instead of getting to bed and getting the sleep that our body requires.
Those challenges can seem to be intractable, unsolvable, but they are solvable as long as we're willing to practice these habits from Sunday to Saturday, and then begin again on Sunday continuously up leveling our skills to meet the challenges that we face.
On Sunday, we accept where we are using a thought download to identify what the ticker tape parade of thoughts are, that are going on in our head. We somehow record them. We write them down. We record them using voice to text. We somehow get them out of our head and recorded so that we can look at them. And we begin to accept that those are the thoughts that our brain is offering us regularly. They're the ones that keep bubbling up to the surface and seem to be a part of the problem that we cannot solve. Good to know. It's not that we accept that those thoughts are true, or that we want to continue to practice them or maybe we do, but it's just first accepting that they are there. Okay, now we can see what our thoughts are producing.
When we do our work on Monday, which is noticing where we are in our beliefs. Are we thinking it's impossible, that it's possible or that it's inevitable? By looking at those thoughts that we downloaded on Sunday and figuring out how does this STEAR Map workout with this? The situation that we're trying to solve is always something outside of us. And our thoughts and our emotions are inside of us. We want to notice what the thoughts are and what the emotions are that they inspire. And sometimes it's the emotion first and then the thought it doesn't really matter. Just notice that they come together and they flavor our actions and the results that we create, and often, almost always the result that we create ties right back to that thought the way that we think about whatever this situation is whatever the story is that we're telling ourselves, just noticing that takes us a long way takes us out of that automatic response mechanism. Our brain keeps acting like it just doesn't seem to want to think of anything different other than what we've always thought before. 70,000 thoughts a day. 95% of them are the same that they were yesterday and 80% of them are negative or protective. Our brain is not there to make us happy or help us solve problems. It's there just to make sure that we survive. And so when we look at those, we don't just listen to our brain.
On Tuesday, We talk back to it and we notice that there's an impact on our body as well as the thoughts that are happening and we love to stay up here in our brain. But as Oprah suggests, we need to feel the feel than take the wheel. We feel the feeling in our body and then we take the wheel by noticing what are the thoughts that are contributing to that emotion and what are the times that we felt that strong emotion in our past? And are we reacting the way that we automatically have reacted since then we give that past version of ourselves all the empathy and compassion in the world because we know we were doing the best we could at that time. And now we want to get better. That's human nature. Human nature always wants to take the next step to get better at that's how we put our head on the pillow at night satisfied that we've given our best. We connect by feeling the feel what's going on inside of our body and then taking our wheel what are our thoughts now? And how do those relate perhaps to our childhood, then we anchor in what matters most to us recognizing that we are all on this hero's journey. We start out with this challenge in front of us and we notice that it's not something that's going to solve itself quickly. We find somebody to help us and I'd love to be that person for you to take you into the areas of trials and failures and figuring this whole thing out. No one can give us the solution because no one's 100% Like us, we have to find the custom solution. We have to right size, the challenge and take it one step at a time toward that new growth and skills. And it's not fun. It's really uncomfortable. That's where the death and the rebirth happen. Where we come out with oh, that's what's gonna work for me. And we finally accept the change. It takes time it takes practice, we realize okay, now we've got it. We are a human continuously trying to solve the problems that we face. Now we've got it and we're going to come back changed and improved so that we can then start again on the next challenge. It's just human nature.
On Wednesday, we anchor in what matters to us. All the way through this cycle we're anchoring in what our core strengths are the things that we know best in our heart that we really exemplify where we can stay strong and committed to our strengths. What really makes us unique to this world.
On Thursday, we think, Okay, we've got to figure out what is the thought that does produce the emotions, which is going to flavor the actions that we want to create those results that we want. We can't just listen to our brain offering us thoughts automatically. We need to decide what we're going to think we need to recognize that there's this ongoing battle that's taking place in our mind that we have to take an active role in that battle by deciding in advance how we want to think and how we want to act.
On Friday, we know that action is what's going to make it happen all along though we do need to make sure that we keep our body in a good place. We're so happy to go up to our brain because it's what this whole culture of ours says is the most important place to be and yet there's two sides. There's the brain and the heart. There's the thinking and the feelings and we need to breathe in and calm our bodies with our breath. And our mind we're using our body to slow things that are going on in our brain. And then we smile because that just gives us such a sense of relief. We know that right now we are safe. And we know it right now is the only moment and every step of progress matters. If we can just get that Goldilocks just right next step one that we know we can do and yet it brings the challenge to us and it's going to produce the result that we want. Every step matters. We have a big goal, but we can do best when we bite it. Off chunk.
On Saturday, we go to partnering. Because look, none of us succeeds alone. All of us are going to need help. And this is where we practice that self advocacy equation, where we say here's a situation that's unique to me. And here's the help I need. This is what I'm asking for. When we use each other together. When we build our team and realize that we don't have to solve all of our problems alone. Then we can really build that partnership with all the folks that can help us along the way.
And now we're practicing all the seven habits each day and we cycle back to the beginning, where we examine where we are and accept those are our current thoughts. This is how we begin again on Sunday. And we outsmart those struggles that present themselves to us every day for the rest of our lives. And we're grateful for them because they help us grow and level on who we are and what we can offer to the world.
