Why we attack when we're stressed

I've noticed that I sometimes attack others when I'm stressed and in defense mode. I've seen others in my family do the same thing. What's going on?

We put others down to make ourselves feel better. One-up is the opposite of one-down. It's what we do when we're stressed and our self-esteem is fragile. When we act like a child.

Terry Real calls it grandiosity in his recent book, US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a Better Relationship. He argues that psychology has done a pretty good job helping us build up our self-esteem when we feel one-down. But it has ignored the other end of the continuum when we attack to feel one-up.

Here's a quick episode that not only explains why we one-up but also gives us a way to handle ourselves and our loved ones when we or they attack.

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